Root Cause of Lust
In order to free ourselves from the grasp of this irascible demon
of lust which tirelessly clings to our souls with relentless
tenacity, each of us needs to introspectively search for, identify
and understand this root cause and how it operates.
A very holy Carmelite priest, Father Dominic Borg, O.C.D.,
recently gave the following explanation:
Going to confession and purging our sins only clears away the
sin. It doesn’t address the root cause. It is like a spider
spinning a web. Confession clears away the web, but the spider is
patient. He lurks in the background and waits for a time. Then,
he slowly and quietly begins to rebuild his web. After a while,
we are back committing the same old sins all over again. The
pattern becomes a roller coaster of Sin – Confess – Sin –
Confess. We find ourselves in this habitual cycle, unable to
This happens because, somewhere along the way, we have formed an
attitude of arrogance, an attitude which says that we don’t need
God, that we can do it all ourselves.
So what does God do? He withdraws His hand and withholds His
support. God says to us, “Do you think that you don’t need me?
That you can do it all by yourself? Do you think that you are
better than they are? Look and see what you are without My help!”
In no time at all, there we are, found wallowing in our own
weakness, helplessness, sin and misery for all to see.
Instead of just clearing away the
web each time that we sin,
we need to kill the
Lust and the impure actions that
accompany it are not rooted in the flesh
but in the lack of charity and love we have toward
Being condescending and judgmental towards others while, at the
same time, holding on to an unkind, impatient, uncharitable and
selfish attitude and demeanor are what cause the lust to bubble
Instead of growing into the loving, giving, kind and patient
person that God intended, the attitude becomes ingrained in our
psyches of treating others as mere objects of personal
gratification. To make matters worse, out of guilt we seek
consolation. This perverse form of consolation tacitly and
inevitably manifests itself in the flesh. By this means, before
we even know what happened, the anger-lust-guilt habit has become
Where true charity and Christian love are
purity will be found wanting as
The causes of our lust, therefore, are often times quite
disassociated from the lust itself.
What to do?
The first step is to perform an
honest personal inventory and look for the spiders that dwell
Start by examining your relationships -
Do you have problems at Home? At
Work? At School?
What are they? When did they begin? Who is or was involved?
· What are the sources of stress in your life?
· Where and how is charity lacking in your life?
· Where and under what circumstances are you most prone to being
judgmental of others?
· Toward whom is your anger, hostility, impatience or animosity
· Summarize - What, for you, provides the most fertile environment
for growing your spiders?
Find your spiders. Come to
recognize them. Root them out. Ask God to help you kill them.
Make the environment of your being totally unsuitable for the
spider and he will leave.
Sacred Scripture identifies the principal demon of impurity. His
name is asmodeus. The Archangel Raphael defeated asmodeus,
enabling Tobias to enter into a Holy marriage with Sarah. (Book of
Ask St. Raphael to help you in your struggles against this spider,
this demon that stalks the recesses of your soul.
Take the Next Step
Reconciliation and healing, charity and love are what we need and
what others need from us. Begin this conversion, this healing
transformation by giving God and prayer a bigger and more
prominent role in your daily life. Put God first, then, let go
and let God.
You will be all the better for it and so will all of those around
A word of warning:
After all of your hard work, make absolutely certain that God
fills the void left by the spider, lest bigger and stronger
spiders come along and take up residence in its place.