October - 04
Q:  How are these women able to show off their bodies in such explicit manner and able to put up a normal face in public? And where is their abode? Are they not having sisters, brothers, mothers, fathers...? What would be their family life? How come they are able to cut the ice for their first exposure? Are they on drugs? If they are on drugs are they not aware of what they do? Do they have guilt feelings after they get ‘spent’ sexually? Would it not be better to deal with these elements rather than the disease, echoing the maxim ‘Prevention is better than Cure?'

 Milton

A:  Dear Milton,
I can’t answer for how women who work in so called “gentlemen’s clubs” rationalize their sinful and immoral behavior.  To do this kind of work requires a person to completely detach themselves from any sense of true love, affection and intimacy as God intended.  No doubt many of them probably do take drugs.

 I do know that some of these women can earn upwards of $2500 - $3000/night.

Assuming such a girl works 20 days out of a month, that works out to $50K – 60K/month in tax free non-traceable income. So, in less than a year, she will have banked over half a million dollars.  

I know very few people who would not be tempted by such a large sum of easy money, and this would include being willing to compromise their personal moral and spiritual values.

These women feed on the money, the power and control they hold over men, as well as the attention men give them, which brings me to my point.

Our apostolate does not fight pornography per se.

We exist to minister to people who admit they have an addiction to it and desire to break that addiction.

Fighting porn head-on would be every bit as unsuccessful as prohibition was in fighting alcohol and the war on drugs has been in eliminating narcotics.  Both of these federal programs have been unmitigated disasters.  Why?

These efforts target the elimination of the substance (booze, drugs, porn, fast food, gambling, whatever) but they don’t address the desire.

As long as a person has a disordered desire for something, he or she will go to great lengths to fulfill that desire, including pay a lot of money.

So, because there is tremendous financial opportunity to be had in supplying the things that satisfy people’s disordered desires – drugs, sex, booze, there will be people who are ready, willing and able to furnish those illicit materials.

What is needed then is to work toward eliminating the disordered desire.

If, for a moment, no one desired illicit drugs, that same group of people would no longer be willing to pay for drugs.  If that went on for an extended period of time, all of the drug dealers would quickly start looking for alternate employment, all because the market demand for their illicit goods ceased to exist.

So it is with porn.

We strive to make men and women aware of the harm that porn has on the individual and of the destructive ripple effects that porn has in impacting the lives of those near and dear to an addict.

In other words, we strive to rehabilitate one addict at a time, one family at a time.

Yes, the women who tempt men by these means are sinning and are leading others into sin.

But, it is incumbent upon men to avoid the near occasion of sin.  That is, we must always avoid feeding the addiction.  No matter how much the most beautiful women in the world enticingly shake their tails at us, it is incumbent upon us as men to turn and walk away. Period. 

There is no excuse on our part for participating in this sin.

The blame for social failures and the moral downfall of our society I place squarely at the feet of men for the very reason that we have failed to be good and faithful husbands, good and faithful fathers and good and faithful workers.

Only when we begin to be responsible and accountable for our actions and their consequences, and we start to live and act like the good husbands, fathers and workers that God calls us to be, will society start to turn around for the better.

God Bless!

paul
for the Serenellians and www.PornNoMore.com